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  1. Was lovely to catch up with you and thanks for the lift
  2. It is over and went as well as these things can in these strange days. Can't write much now but Puang gave me permission to post this photo of Thomas and the flowers sent to represent the forum. Thanks to John Luke for attending and representing the forum.
  3. This is the eulogy to be read by the celebrant at the funeral. If anyone has anything to add please let me know. EULOGY Phil was born in Leeds on the 14th March 1970. He was raised with his sister Louise and Brother Mark. Happy times were had in the 1980’s when the family holidayed in Filey, spending time looking for crabs on Filey Brigg, fishing and building sandcastle fortresses. Phil career was varied and living for a time in Lanzarote meant that he ran a bar but then turned his hand to building swimming pools, a job which he loved. In 2006 Phil returned to the UK and beg
  4. Money continues to arrive. From members like @Binlid, thanks mate, and non members like Amex who gave me money back from the funeral flowers which will be put into the fund and Mrs @Horizondave whose friends Patty, Jane and Cartoon have all made a donation. Presently £2953 has been paid out in funeral costs and the £500 cash given to Puang and there is £180 in the bank.
  5. And it continues. Last week a friend of Mrs Horizondave heard the story and made a donation and she told another Thai lady resident in the UK who has also sent some money. @Binlid was on the phone as soon as he got back from holiday today and has made a very generous donation too.
  6. Just received an offer of financial help from an anonymous member this morning. Thank you very much mate, very generous of you.
  7. I believe she has been offered help of a loan for this.
  8. Puang's plan is to stay in the UK and is applying for indefinite leave to remain which she should get no problem being the widow of a British citizen and mother of a British child.
  9. An update. We collected £2918 plus pennies. £2273 paid for the funeral. £180 was the cost of the celebrant to host the funeral and I topped up the remainder to make a nice round £500 which I gave to Puang today. I know that there are possibly another couple of donations to come but I wanted to give Puang some money today. She is fine but under a lot of pressure. I met a very old friend of Phil's today who, along with his wife, is helping her. Thomas is just a bundle of fun and is definitely going to be a big lad like his dad. Although he has dark hair like his mother I to
  10. You have six months to apply for this. Whether you are successful or not depends on which other benefits you are entitled to. Before Phil's death any benefits the family got were in his name and Puang is going through the process of applying for them now. If she applies for the bereavement benefit before successfully obtaining the qualifying ones she may appear to be ineligible. Or at least this is what we have been lead to believe. Unfortunately due to Puang's present status in the country the funeral directors were unwilling to do anything until £1000 deposit was paid and want full paym
  11. Yes got it mate. Extremely kind of you and much appreciated. Also received one from an old lady in the Thai community in the UK a friend of Mrs @Horizondave
  12. ^ @nampla69 was there that day and baby Iona got a silver money box from the lads. This is the community Lanza thought of.
  13. Got it mate. Thanks very much pal it is much appreciated. We must meet up one day. I'm actually very humbled by the fact that you decide to do something about alcohol after missing my birthday meet up in Reading. Yes I know it was so much about the other great lads that turned up and not me, lol. I'd have loved to have met you that day but I'm glad now that you couldn't come. If I organise this celebration of Phil's life you must come. Me and you will stay sober together that day. We'll have a good laugh mate. Anyway a message from Puang... Thank you very m
  14. @code_slayer_bkk thank you very much for your kind donation mate. Thanks also to @Proffesor and @Bazle for helping out here.
  15. Thanks to @ArtyGraph for his very generous donation. People have been expressing their concern about me spending a lot of time on this while I am on a weekend break in Budapest. Don't worry I've got my priorities sorted.
  16. She is getting the invoice. The offer of explaining the money is a loan is there if needed.
  17. When all this is over there will be a meet up in the UK which Puang has said she'd like to attend with Thomas. It will be to celebrate Lanza's life and for Puang to be able to thank people in person. Plus I guess a lot of members might like to meet Thomas too. Before this I had pencilled in a meet up on 19th of September. I'm going to cancel this and have it at a later date to give the maximum amount of people the chance to attend.
  18. All the money has been paid from my bank account direct to the funeral directors and I am willing to inform any authorities that this was done as a personal loan. Any money left over will be taken to her as cash.
  19. Yes I was making a joke. You sent some money via transferwise and at the same time I was informed that Moonfly was also using transferwise to send the same amount from the same country. It took me a while to stop looking for the second amount.
  20. Thank you very much to Moonfly and @Starshine who made a joint donation.
  21. Definitely not anyone connected with here Tommy. Will not be short mate.
  22. Well first of all the original idea was to make a collection to help Puang and Thomas at this difficult time and show our appreciation for the work Phil put in here building a community. Unfortunately promises made to Phil by certain people were not kept and Puang was left in an impossible situation re the funeral. We have enough money to pay for the funeral. The next thing is to pay for a celebrant to hold the service, we are £137 short of the £180 charged for this. I hope that there is a little left over to give to Puang as this was the original idea. Hopefully she will get some grant
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