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9 hours ago, tko said:

I taught miy wife to drive in the US, and she got her license.  She only had a motorcycle licensee in Thailand before she moved over.   When we moved to Thailand, she freaked out about how Thais drive.  It's been a few years, so now we're both used to it.

Same.”they drive like maniacs”.

those people.lolol.

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My wife's sister moved to Croydon (London suburb) 9 years ago with her English husband into an area which we discovered was mini Thailand. 

There is even a street sign "Thai Corner" and the local pub the landlord's wife was Thai and virtually everything in the pub ( except the booze)  is imported from Thailand and has a price tag on it. All the pictures on the walls, ornaments, elephants even some of the tables all from Thailand and all for sale.

When Sai and I visited their house Thai women kept appearing and disappearing.

Their son, who could hardly speak any English when they moved, may still look Thai but he is English now to the point he had difficulty speaking to Sai in Thai. Children are very adaptable.

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18 hours ago, tko said:

I taught miy wife to drive in the US, and she got her license.  She only had a motorcycle licensee in Thailand before she moved over.   When we moved to Thailand, she freaked out about how Thais drive.  It's been a few years, so now we're both used to it.

On my first visit to Thailand, we were traveling back to her parents house in her dad’s Mercedes on the expressway, doing about 170kph and I asked her how long she’d had a license, she replied “I’ve never had a license”!

Bearing in mind her dad was a top BIB back then, to say I wasn’t amused, was putting it politely. 
When she came to live with me in the UK, I bought her a new Honda Civic Auto and a set of L plates, with a view to taking her out to learn the British rules of the road and how we (or most of us) drive here. 
BIG mistake, as she drove like a maniac, leaving just inches to the car in front. 
So I decided, if we were ever going to make our relationship work, I would be better off having a qualified instructor give her lessons. Thankfully she passed her test after 6 or so lessons and since then, has managed to damage every new car (9) she’s had since. ☹️

Now, to save money on divorce lawyers, I always drive when we go out as a family. 🤗

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On my first visit to Thailand, we were traveling back to her parents house in her dad’s Mercedes on the expressway, doing about 170kph and I asked her how long she’d had a license, she replied “I’ve never had a license”!
Bearing in mind her dad was a top BIB back then, to say I wasn’t amused, was putting it politely. 
When she came to live with me in the UK, I bought her a new Honda Civic Auto and a set of L plates, with a view to taking her out to learn the British rules of the road and how we (or most of us) drive here. 
BIG mistake, as she drove like a maniac, leaving just inches to the car in front. 
So I decided, if we were ever going to make our relationship work, I would be better off having a qualified instructor give her lessons. Thankfully she passed her test after 6 or so lessons and since then, has managed to damage every new car (9) she’s had since. [emoji3525]
Now, to save money on divorce lawyers, I always drive when we go out as a family. [emoji847]
I,d love to hear the story how you ended up in a girls Dads Merc on your first visit to Thailand. Mine had a bufallo. I went wrong somewhere?

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5 hours ago, Captain_B said:

I,d love to hear the story how you ended up in a girls Dads Merc on your first visit to Thailand. Mine had a bufallo. I went wrong somewhere?

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After meeting my now wife in the UK, I retired and went out to Thailand to meet her family. Her dad was a BIB back then and she used his new car to ferry me around to and from my hotel in BKK.
I also had diarrhoea in the front seat, but that’s another story. 🤣

 

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Well, here it is from the horse mouth ......

http://www.khaosodenglish.com/life/arts/2019/11/28/its-not-all-sabai-sabai-matchmaker-of-thai-women-and-danish-men-says/

A few extracts ? :

"Sommai was the first Thai wife in Thy, a rural district in Denmark when she moved there three decades ago. Through matchmaking her extended family and neighbors from Yok Kham village in rural Khon Kaen by placing newspaper ads, Sommai brought over and matchmade for more than 40 Thai women, who in turn brought in 200 more."

 

However, Sommai pulled no punches when asked why the women went.

“To be honest, no one goes for love, no matter if they met online or in real life, or at Pattaya like I did. We go to help ourselves and our family, but as time goes on, some people love each other,” she said. “We don’t go because of love, or endure because of love.”

Romantic love wasn’t the most important factor in these marriages, Sommai said.

“Although love is needed in a marriage, it’s not needed for us and the women who go,” she said. “We don’t need them to love us as a person, but to love our family as well.”

Ough, this one is hard :

"When asked how Danish men are better than Thai counterparts during a Q&A session, Sommai said they are pretty much the same, except there is tougher law enforcement in Denmark which prevent husbands from beating their wives."

OK, IMO a lot of cynical truth in what she said, but a load of bollocks as well...

That she has made a business out of.it shows her mentality.

nevertheless, I'll try to find the movie.  

Edit : DONT KILL THE MESSENGER ....

 

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1 hour ago, Thai Spice said:

Well, here it is from the horse mouth ......

http://www.khaosodenglish.com/life/arts/2019/11/28/its-not-all-sabai-sabai-matchmaker-of-thai-women-and-danish-men-says/

A few extracts ? :

"Sommai was the first Thai wife in Thy, a rural district in Denmark when she moved there three decades ago. Through matchmaking her extended family and neighbors from Yok Kham village in rural Khon Kaen by placing newspaper ads, Sommai brought over and matchmade for more than 40 Thai women, who in turn brought in 200 more."

 

However, Sommai pulled no punches when asked why the women went.

“To be honest, no one goes for love, no matter if they met online or in real life, or at Pattaya like I did. We go to help ourselves and our family, but as time goes on, some people love each other,” she said. “We don’t go because of love, or endure because of love.”

Romantic love wasn’t the most important factor in these marriages, Sommai said.

“Although love is needed in a marriage, it’s not needed for us and the women who go,” she said. “We don’t need them to love us as a person, but to love our family as well.”

Ough, this one is hard :

"When asked how Danish men are better than Thai counterparts during a Q&A session, Sommai said they are pretty much the same, except there is tougher law enforcement in Denmark which prevent husbands from beating their wives."

OK, IMO a lot of cynical truth in what she said, but a load of bollocks as well...

That she has made a business out of.it shows her mentality.

nevertheless, I'll try to find the movie.  

Edit : DONT KILL THE MESSENGER ....

 

Shows her to be capable of recognising a business opportunity and being shrewd enough to act on it. Can't see what's wrong in Matchmaking companies although I have never used one myself.

Looking forward to seeing the movie. I know a couple of girls from the village who live in Denmark, met their husbands and they seemed like good guys. Certainly one of the girls (who is on her 3rd farang husband) is only doing it for the money but the other has been married for longer than me so that's at least 12 years.

They were back this time last year, had more than a few beers with them and they were great company as usual. Not that it's any of my business but I would say they have a good relationship.

Some people can make it work, some can't, it's the same all over the world. Some can't get over a failed relationship, they end up bitter and twisted, just because they were rejected they are unable to accept others can be happy.

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14 hours ago, Smiler said:

Some people can make it work, some can't, it's the same all over the world. Some can't get over a failed relationship, they end up bitter and twisted, just because they were rejected they are unable to accept others can be happy.

Spot on!

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16 hours ago, Smiler said:

Some people can make it work, some can't, it's the same all over the world. Some can't get over a failed relationship, they end up bitter and twisted, just because they were rejected they are unable to accept others can be happy.

Well, we may also have different interpretation of "happiness" ?

You see, when I watch some vloggers on Youtube living in a very basic (to be polite) environment in the boonies, with the extended family on their back, claiming that they have found perfect happiness and the love of their live I am thinking "well guys, you really didn't set the target too high".

I am not sure they are really happy, or try to convince themselves they are ? Saw some from Thailand and Philippines and they are an embarrassing to watch.

And I have seen a few cases in real live as well.

But hey, up to them !

 

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  • 7 months later...

Other than going back once a year for holidays she prefers it in the UK . She has her own business here and many Thai friends , whom she sees mostly everyday . And the clincher she has me . 

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Since we got married in 1991 we've lived in several different places,Oman,England,Isle of Man,Texas & I suspect like most Thai women my missus is very adaptable.Wherever we've been she's found Thai friends.Passing her UK driving test in 1996 was probably the best thing that's happened,she is very independent.

But both of us want to go & live in Thailand and I was an only child and have a 90yo mother....

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Wish my Mrs would get her drivers licence  ,serious procrastination over the last ten years .Even brought her a newish corolla as enticement 

We only go back to Thailand for her to see her dad ( usually once a year ) and or her sisters , 

I Have also noticed she instructed the Young fella to keep his mouth shut on what assets she/we have over here ,stops the accumulation of sick buffalo 

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18 hours ago, Nickrock said:

Wish my Mrs would get her drivers licence  ,serious procrastination over the last ten years .Even brought her a newish corolla as enticement 

We only go back to Thailand for her to see her dad ( usually once a year ) and or her sisters , 

I Have also noticed she instructed the Young fella to keep his mouth shut on what assets she/we have over here ,stops the accumulation of sick buffalo 

Pay someone to teach her to drive,in the new Corolla ya bought her.

Once she’s on her way,she’ll be fine.Best thing I ever did.

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14 hours ago, Skalliwag said:

Pay someone to teach her to drive,in the new Corolla ya bought her.

Once she’s on her way,she’ll be fine.Best thing I ever did.

Its the written and oral test the actual driving part is all covered ( brother in law is s driving instructor ) sold the corolla about 5 years ago ( you can get a 8 -10 year Old tidy car for about 30k baht here )

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I notice from reading the above that lots of your wives have lots of Thai friends here in the UK. Don't you think that's a bit dangerous?

I've known groups of Thai girls in the UK who just sit about gambling all day and generally playing one-upmanship about whos husband has the most money and what they have managed to get him to buy them etc.

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1 hour ago, monkey_omelette said:

I notice from reading the above that lots of your wives have lots of Thai friends here in the UK. Don't you think that's a bit dangerous?

I've known groups of Thai girls in the UK who just sit about gambling all day and generally playing one-upmanship about whos husband has the most money and what they have managed to get him to buy them etc.

I’ve heard that stereotype a lot on forums, I know 4 here where I live and I’ve never seen any of those behaviours, they just seem to live a normal life and work etc. As far as I’m aware none of them were ever hookers though so that could be a factor and they never got mixed up with any of the BS associated with that.

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2 hours ago, monkey_omelette said:

I notice from reading the above that lots of your wives have lots of Thai friends here in the UK. Don't you think that's a bit dangerous?

I've known groups of Thai girls in the UK who just sit about gambling all day and generally playing one-upmanship about whos husband has the most money and what they have managed to get him to buy them etc.

Dangerous  no Healthy yes .. You are right about the gambling tho  , but its her money she's using so no problem with me  . ( and not so often these days as we have a littlen now )

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4 hours ago, monkey_omelette said:

I notice from reading the above that lots of your wives have lots of Thai friends here in the UK. Don't you think that's a bit dangerous?

I've known groups of Thai girls in the UK who just sit about gambling all day and generally playing one-upmanship about whos husband has the most money and what they have managed to get him to buy them etc.

How's Kingkaew getting on with her new Merc? :default_biggrin:

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9 hours ago, monkey_omelette said:

I notice from reading the above that lots of your wives have lots of Thai friends here in the UK. Don't you think that's a bit dangerous?

I've known groups of Thai girls in the UK who just sit about gambling all day and generally playing one-upmanship about whos husband has the most money and what they have managed to get him to buy them etc.

No, don't think it's dangerous at all. I think it's down to the girl. Only in one place where my wife worked did she come home complaining about a Thai girl working there, who was asking her questions about me, money etc. She just avoided that girl as much as possible after that, never socialised with her etc. Much like i'd do with an arsehole at my work. 

My missus has two close Thai friends she met at baby club. Lovely girls, always at the park with the kids, different kid's cafe places, trying out different restaurant etc. Never display anything like that. I know the husbands as well, day's out at the zoo or whatever. 

7 hours ago, Sangsom said:

I’ve heard that stereotype a lot on forums, I know 4 here where I live and I’ve never seen any of those behaviours, they just seem to live a normal life and work etc. As far as I’m aware none of them were ever hookers though so that could be a factor and they never got mixed up with any of the BS associated with that.

I'd say it's certainly a factor in some, yea.

And as you say, i know loads of Thais in London, don't display any of those behaviors. In my experience, it's more the exception than the norm. 

Edit - Then again, neither me or my missus drink or go to bars and stuff unless for a meal or whatever, not sure if that's a factor. 

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1 hour ago, Krapow said:

 

And as you say, i know loads of Thais in London, don't display any of those behaviors. In my experience, it's more the exception than the norm. 

 

They aren't gonna do it in front of you mate it's all the bullshit talk that goes on amongst them and usually from the girls who think they are clever (and try and appear like butter wouldn't melt) 

Still a heirarchy with loads of the wrong type over here , believe me i've dealt with enough of them and even thrown enough of them out of my house over the years 🤣🤣

Met some decent girls too , but some proper horrible bitches also.

 

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10 hours ago, monkey_omelette said:

I notice from reading the above that lots of your wives have lots of Thai friends here in the UK. Don't you think that's a bit dangerous?

I've known groups of Thai girls in the UK who just sit about gambling all day and generally playing one-upmanship about whos husband has the most money and what they have managed to get him to buy them etc.

As far as I know, none of my wife’s Thai friends here in the UK are into any form of gambling, the vast majority of them including my wife, don’t even drink alcohol.  As for my wife, she’s got plenty of money of her own, so doesn’t need to ask me to buy her anything. In fact, over the years we’ve been married, she’s spent 10’s of thousands of pounds on gifts for me and not expected anything in return. One time, she even bought me a new car. 
Many of her friends have money of their own and also have family businesses, several of which are large and very profitable with their English husbands and all lead busy lives, so don’t get to sit around on their asses playing one-upmanship. 

Of course there are always exceptions in any social gatherings, but my wife and her friends know which Thai women to steer clear of, so they are not invited into their circle. Ex Hookers, gamblers and heavy drinkers, almost certainly wouldn’t get a look into her group, not to say they are bad people, just that they become trouble sooner or later.
I think the type you are talking about tend to attract others of the same ilk, but sensible Thai ladies (which are the majority of those Thai women I’ve met here) know instinctively to steer clear of wronguns, wether they are Thai or any other nationality. 
So in answer to your question “don’t you think that’s dangerous”. My answer is, in my case, no. 👌🤗  
 

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2 hours ago, roomark said:

They aren't gonna do it in front of you mate it's all the bullshit talk that goes on amongst them and usually from the girls who think they are clever (and try and appear like butter wouldn't melt) 

Still a heirarchy with loads of the wrong type over here , believe me i've dealt with enough of them and even thrown enough of them out of my house over the years 🤣🤣

Met some decent girls too , but some proper horrible bitches also.

 

Yea of course, much like anywhere, decent people and cunts. Then with some Thais as you say, the hierarchy, face, one-upmanship, whatever you want to call it. 

I can only speak for myself and the wife's experience, and if it happens, then they get avoided, and much like I also try to avoid arseholes, but certainly more the exception than the norm. Much the same as what Khun Don as said. 

But that's just our experience, everyone will have their own, you have yours, and as said, we don't drink, gamble etc, so maybe due to not in those circles, I don't know. It's more restaurant reviews and child stuff, with my wife and her bestie Thai mates, who are two lovely girls. 

That's just our experience, everyone's will be different ...

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