Popular Post thegrogmonster Posted August 30, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted August 30, 2020 19 minutes ago, Thinkingallowed said: Total now stands at £2753 A wonderful effort by all and thanks Andy and Tommy for organising this. Once things settle down after the funeral please let me know if things are still tight and I'll put in a bit more again. 2 1 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roomark Posted August 30, 2020 Share Posted August 30, 2020 1 hour ago, Thinkingallowed said: Total now stands at £2753 Outstanding.. 2 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aqualung Posted August 30, 2020 Share Posted August 30, 2020 Amazing effort by the guys organising this for Phil and his family. Never known anything like this on any forums I've belonged to. Staggering really. 4 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Aqualung Posted August 30, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted August 30, 2020 I know this has been mentioned before by myself and dcfc but has Phils wife actually applied for the bereavement benefit from the UK government? Im not aware of the families circumstances but applying won't do any harm at all. In fact it could benefit immensely if it were granted and I can't see any reason why it wouldn't. Also, there is a service called the "tell us once" service which deals with all the stuff that can be heartbreaking to do by yourself. It was really helpful to myself when my mother passed away. Just a thought chaps. 5 1 1 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Thinkingallowed Posted August 31, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted August 31, 2020 (edited) 7 hours ago, Aqualung said: I know this has been mentioned before by myself and dcfc but has Phils wife actually applied for the bereavement benefit from the UK government? Im not aware of the families circumstances but applying won't do any harm at all. In fact it could benefit immensely if it were granted and I can't see any reason why it wouldn't. Also, there is a service called the "tell us once" service which deals with all the stuff that can be heartbreaking to do by yourself. It was really helpful to myself when my mother passed away. Just a thought chaps. You have six months to apply for this. Whether you are successful or not depends on which other benefits you are entitled to. Before Phil's death any benefits the family got were in his name and Puang is going through the process of applying for them now. If she applies for the bereavement benefit before successfully obtaining the qualifying ones she may appear to be ineligible. Or at least this is what we have been lead to believe. Unfortunately due to Puang's present status in the country the funeral directors were unwilling to do anything until £1000 deposit was paid and want full payment before the day of the funeral. This fund wasn't originally intended to pay for any funeral but events outside of the forum let Puang down badly and we stepped in as I honestly couldn't see another way around this for her. Quite a lot of the costs to the funeral directors had been racked up before Puang was aware of her situation and to be honest once professional funeral directors are involved the price of this funeral is pretty much as low as it gets. Hopefully she will receive this bereavement benefit and she can use the money for her and Thomas just like the original idea Tommy had. Presently there is enough to pay for all funeral costs and £300 for me to give to Puang and Thomas. I will have a chat with her later to make sure she is getting some good independent free advice. I'll also try to pursuade her to talk to the lawyer @tommy dee so kindly arranged. I've tried to avoid discussions about this and the reason why it became necessary for us all to help pay for the funeral as I know it would bring up a lot of emotions and cause a shit storm. To be absolutely clear it was noone connected to this board who let Phil down but by Christ did that person let themseves down. Edited August 31, 2020 by Thinkingallowed 3 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pumpuynarak Posted August 31, 2020 Share Posted August 31, 2020 1 hour ago, Thinkingallowed said: You have six months to apply for this. Whether you are successful or not depends on which other benefits you are entitled to. Before Phil's death any benefits the family got were in his name and Puang is going through the process of applying for them now. If she applies for the bereavement benefit before successfully obtaining the qualifying ones she may appear to be ineligible. Or at least this is what we have been lead to believe. Unfortunately due to Puang's present status in the country the funeral directors were unwilling to do anything until £1000 deposit was paid and want full payment before the day of the funeral. This fund wasn't originally intended to pay for any funeral but events outside of the forum let Puang down badly and we stepped in as I honestly couldn't see another way around this for her. Quite a lot of the costs to the funeral directors had been racked up before Puang was aware of her situation and to be honest once professional funeral directors are involved the price of this funeral is pretty much as low as it gets. Hopefully she will receive this bereavement benefit and she can use the money for her and Thomas just like the original idea Tommy had. Presently there is enough to pay for all funeral costs and £300 for me to give to Puang and Thomas. I will have a chat with her later to make sure she is getting some good independent free advice. I'll also try to pursuade her to talk to the lawyer @tommy dee so kindly arranged. I've tried to avoid discussions about this and the reason why it became necessary for us all to help pay for the funeral as I know it would bring up a lot of emotions and cause a shit storm. To be absolutely clear it was noone connected to this board who let Phil down but by Christ did that person let themseves down. Well done mate, i've no doubt his wife and son will need all the help they can get sorting things out. 2 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Horizondave Posted August 31, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted August 31, 2020 I just want to add my thanks to Andy for getting really involved despite the fact that this was not what both he and I intended when we were visiting/keeping in touch with Phil since his diagnosis. Phil had an understanding of what would happen after he left us yet that understanding was really a set of broken promises but as said by Andy we want to concentrate on what can be done to assist Puang and Thomas going forward. Andy has stepped up despite his need to attend interviews and try to have a break in Budapest. I have spoken with Tommy on many occasions and his assistance and involvement in this endeavour has also been immense. Puang has had a strong arm thrown around her to help and ensure all is done to give Phil the deserved celebration of his life and to give Puang and Thomas the best chance of a good future going forward. Phil was a great guy and the efforts on this forum have shown how he was held in high esteem both by those who knew him personally and those that have interfaced with him here. Thanks again to Andy and Tommy. 10 2 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post tommy dee Posted August 31, 2020 Author Popular Post Share Posted August 31, 2020 a lot of us are thousands of miles away, Andy and David are the ones on the ground and getting the info, helping P and making sure she is safe and funded best we can. thata an immense effort, especially ad D is in the process of a big change himself no details as it is personal, but Phil was convinced of help that didnt materialise for P after the event. the real gift tho hasnt been from us, but all the BMs here who have donated. I know Phil would be overwhelmed by the support. as his way of thanking all, he left the forum back end in excellent and up to date condition, basically to run itself. he actually worked on it up to a month before passing despite being told to get on with the homelife by me. and together yu have taken at least one horrible aspect of his passing away from the list of worries that P has. for that, everyone should be very proud. 9 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Bazle Posted August 31, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted August 31, 2020 (edited) 42 minutes ago, tommy dee said: the real gift tho hasnt been from us, but all the BMs here who have donated. Not true! The effort put in by you, Andy and Dave is worth a lot more than our donations. It is far easier to give money than time. Edited August 31, 2020 by Bazle 9 1 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lantern Posted August 31, 2020 Share Posted August 31, 2020 ^ Well said Bazle. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Thinkingallowed Posted September 5, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted September 5, 2020 An update. We collected £2918 plus pennies. £2273 paid for the funeral. £180 was the cost of the celebrant to host the funeral and I topped up the remainder to make a nice round £500 which I gave to Puang today. I know that there are possibly another couple of donations to come but I wanted to give Puang some money today. She is fine but under a lot of pressure. I met a very old friend of Phil's today who, along with his wife, is helping her. Thomas is just a bundle of fun and is definitely going to be a big lad like his dad. Although he has dark hair like his mother I told him today not to get too attached to it as I think he may end up with a similar amount of it to his father. Puang asked me to tell everyone involved that she thanks them from the bottom of her heart and doesn't know what she would have done without the very generous acts of so many people. I thank everyone too and am very proud to know so many good hearted guys. The first drinks are definitely on me the next time I meet each and every one of you. Funeral is next Friday at 15:10 at Cottingley Hall crematorium. I'll make sure that there is a small floral tribute from the board. Was thinking to just put "from your friends in Thailand 247." Thanks again Andy 16 7 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post boydeste Posted September 5, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted September 5, 2020 (edited) 16 minutes ago, Thinkingallowed said: An update. We collected £2918 plus pennies. £2273 paid for the funeral. £180 was the cost of the celebrant to host the funeral and I topped up the remainder to make a nice round £500 which I gave to Puang today. I know that there are possibly another couple of donations to come but I wanted to give Puang some money today. She is fine but under a lot of pressure. I met a very old friend of Phil's today who, along with his wife, is helping her. Thomas is just a bundle of fun and is definitely going to be a big lad like his dad. Although he has dark hair like his mother I told him today not to get too attached to it as I think he may end up with a similar amount of it to his father. Puang asked me to tell everyone involved that she thanks them from the bottom of her heart and doesn't know what she would have done without the very generous acts of so many people. I thank everyone too and am very proud to know so many good hearted guys. The first drinks are definitely on me the next time I meet each and every one of you. Funeral is next Friday at 15:10 at Cottingley Hall crematorium. I'll make sure that there is a small floral tribute from the board. Was thinking to just put "from your friends in Thailand 247." Thanks again Andy Simply awesome! You are a Star Andy. Edited September 5, 2020 by boydeste 5 1 1 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thai Spice Posted September 5, 2020 Share Posted September 5, 2020 Great job Andy ! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tommy dee Posted September 5, 2020 Author Share Posted September 5, 2020 Briiliant news, in an otherwise dark situation, thanks for the update Andy. good to hear that Lanza II is full of beans too. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pumpuynarak Posted September 6, 2020 Share Posted September 6, 2020 Well done Andy, great job mate 👍 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roomark Posted September 6, 2020 Share Posted September 6, 2020 Brilliant... So glad so many of us could help and make a difference in an otherwise terrible situation. Well done Andy you're a star. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Proffesor Posted September 6, 2020 Share Posted September 6, 2020 Huge respect for all involved. Very gratifying to know that when the excrement hits the whirlygig, assistance will be forthcoming. I'm curious, what are Puang's and Thomas's plans for the future ? Are they planning on staying in the U.K. or returning to Thailand - post Covid ? 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Thinkingallowed Posted September 6, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted September 6, 2020 8 hours ago, Proffesor said: Huge respect for all involved. Very gratifying to know that when the excrement hits the whirlygig, assistance will be forthcoming. I'm curious, what are Puang's and Thomas's plans for the future ? Are they planning on staying in the U.K. or returning to Thailand - post Covid ? Puang's plan is to stay in the UK and is applying for indefinite leave to remain which she should get no problem being the widow of a British citizen and mother of a British child. 6 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sangsom Posted September 6, 2020 Share Posted September 6, 2020 1 hour ago, Thinkingallowed said: Puang's plan is to stay in the UK and is applying for indefinite leave to remain which she should get no problem being the widow of a British citizen and mother of a British child. That’s going to cost her £2400, what a nightmare for the poor lass 😒 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thinkingallowed Posted September 6, 2020 Share Posted September 6, 2020 1 hour ago, Sangsom said: That’s going to cost her £2400, what a nightmare for the poor lass 😒 I believe she has been offered help of a loan for this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Thinkingallowed Posted September 6, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted September 6, 2020 Just received an offer of financial help from an anonymous member this morning. Thank you very much mate, very generous of you. 7 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thinkingallowed Posted September 6, 2020 Share Posted September 6, 2020 And it continues. Last week a friend of Mrs Horizondave heard the story and made a donation and she told another Thai lady resident in the UK who has also sent some money. @Binlid was on the phone as soon as he got back from holiday today and has made a very generous donation too. 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Britboy Posted September 6, 2020 Share Posted September 6, 2020 It's a fantastic effort by everyone involved. I was pleased to contribute and it's just great to see what a bunch of guys like us lot can achieve. Congrats to everyone and thanks @Thinkingallowed and @tommy dee for organising it. What we need to make sure of is that Puang receives continued emotional support. At times like this, after a sad loss, all the activity can deflect the mourning process. All of a sudden, when the formalities are complete, it can suddenly hit what's actually happened. Mentally that's the most difficult time. 1 1 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post tommy dee Posted September 6, 2020 Author Popular Post Share Posted September 6, 2020 i received this today from Puang, Phil's wife and so share here. for all Hi Tommy Thank you very much for your support and message been thinking of you today and would like to say a big thank you to you and all the members of Thailand 247 that help and support money for Phil’s Funural, now everything been paid and sorted out. Thank you very much it’s really is appreciated . 10 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Thinkingallowed Posted September 8, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted September 8, 2020 Money continues to arrive. From members like @Binlid, thanks mate, and non members like Amex who gave me money back from the funeral flowers which will be put into the fund and Mrs @Horizondave whose friends Patty, Jane and Cartoon have all made a donation. Presently £2953 has been paid out in funeral costs and the £500 cash given to Puang and there is £180 in the bank. 5 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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