boydeste Posted December 28, 2023 Share Posted December 28, 2023 Very sad to hear the day has finally come Al. You gave Jan the best possible end, with company, love and care. Wishing you the best mate. Stay strong. RIP Jan. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bobbyg Posted December 28, 2023 Share Posted December 28, 2023 So sorry for your loss mate My thoughts are with you and your family RIP Jan 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Golfingboy Posted December 28, 2023 Share Posted December 28, 2023 Damn Allan, you weren’t kidding a few days ago, she really had gone downhill. My deepest condolences mate….taken far too young. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Freee!! Posted December 28, 2023 Share Posted December 28, 2023 My condolences to you and all others near and dear to her. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Krapow Posted December 28, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted December 28, 2023 7 hours ago, galenkia said: At the moment I just feel numb, I don’t think it’s really sunk in yet. It will take time to process and get to the grieving phase. I thank you for your kind words. Gal, i strongly recommend getting some grief counselling to help you process this, or even after you process it a bit yourself. The hospice where Jan was will either offer it or know where to access it. You've been amazing to her all through this, i have no doubt she would have been so proud to have you as a brother through this. Grief affects people in all sorts of different ways, you'll know yourself how you're feeling, what's going on, you have good self awareness. PM me anytime, chat, meet up, whatever. Though you know the score yourself, if you go to QPR with me, they could be playing the local pub team and get beat 4-0 ffs! Please also continue to use this forum as you have, either through getting sober or helping Jan as much as you could. People think a lot of you, and there's good help and support for you here, please don't isolate. Thinking of you mate. 15 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Horizondave Posted December 28, 2023 Share Posted December 28, 2023 Even though you have been aware for some time that this day was coming, it must be extremely upsetting for you and I am so sorry for your loss. It is obvious you had a strong bond with your sister, and I hope that you can cope better by remembering all the good times you had together and honouring her by being strong and determined in your own life going forward. Sad news to hear mate. 5 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post galenkia Posted December 28, 2023 Author Popular Post Share Posted December 28, 2023 Thank you all for your support and kindness, it is so appreciated. I think what’s made it harder is Jan was the only family I had left, so I don’t even have other family members for support. @Krapow I have been having counseling twice a week for quite a while to help me come to terms with this situation. 4 2 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zambo Posted December 28, 2023 Share Posted December 28, 2023 Galenkia, sorry to hear such sad news, Jan must have been so comforted to have you close. Treasure your memories 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Binlid Posted December 28, 2023 Share Posted December 28, 2023 So sorry this sad day has arrived Gal. My thoughts are with you and all Jan`s friends. "Her smile could lift me from the pain I often found within She said some things I won't forget She made a few bells ring So simple her humility Her beauty found in grace Today she lives another life In some fantastic place" Difford/Tilbrook 6 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coxyhog Posted December 28, 2023 Share Posted December 28, 2023 (edited) So sorry to read this mate many condolences to you. Stay strong, @Krapow has some sound advice. Edited December 28, 2023 by coxyhog 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KhunDon Posted December 28, 2023 Share Posted December 28, 2023 There isn’t enough darkness in the whole world that can hide the light from this one small candle. Jan. You cared for and loved Jan right up to the end. Now, more than ever, you need to be strong in your grief, not just for yourself, but because you know Jan would want you to be. If memories are all you have now, then hang on tight to them and build on them, they will help you through this sad time. Everyone on 247 is rooting for you Gal. Good luck. 👌 3 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thegrogmonster Posted December 28, 2023 Share Posted December 28, 2023 (edited) My condolences and please stay strong. You have a lot of friends on this forum that are here for you if you need them. Edited December 28, 2023 by thegrogmonster 2 1 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AJSP Posted December 28, 2023 Share Posted December 28, 2023 Just now, thegrogmonster said: My condolences and please stay strong. You have a lot of freinds on this forum that are here for you if you need them. Ditto this. 👍 2 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maipenrai Posted December 28, 2023 Share Posted December 28, 2023 We all knew it was coming but that doesn't make it any easier to hear about it - may your sister RIP - she was fortunate to have someone as caring as you to be with her, and do so much for her, near the end. It's good to know that you are getting counselling and I hope this helps you - in some ways you may never get over this, but you WILL get through it - stay strong. 2 1 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lazarus Posted December 28, 2023 Share Posted December 28, 2023 RIP. You're a good man for looking after your sister. 4 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Yessongs Posted December 29, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted December 29, 2023 Alan, I echo what many others have said here, you are a class act and have a good heart for taking care of your Sister. She knew you were there the whole time and your presence for her never waivered. You have a ton of fans here and all the best going forward. 3 3 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aqualung Posted December 29, 2023 Share Posted December 29, 2023 48 minutes ago, Yessongs said: Alan, I echo what many others have said here, you are a class act and have a good heart for taking care of your Sister. She knew you were there the whole time and your presence for her never waivered. You have a ton of fans here and all the best going forward. Well said Mike. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glasseye Posted December 29, 2023 Share Posted December 29, 2023 The day when it arrives the feeling is surreal. It is a depth of emotion that I find impossible to define. As the days pass you will gradually come back to being able to function in moving forward with your life. But, without question it will change you. Weeks, months, years later you will be doing some regular activity focused on whatever it may be you are doing. Suddenly out of nowhere you will feel a hard gut punch. It can happen anywhere, any time. When it does take a moment or even a few minutes to allow yourself to feel it. Then get back to the task you were working on. I'm sorry for your loss Gal. 2 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Butch Posted December 29, 2023 Share Posted December 29, 2023 Deepest condolences Gal. I'm very sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time. RIP Jan. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChiFlyer Posted December 29, 2023 Share Posted December 29, 2023 Sorry for your loss. I hope you can begin to put the pain behind you and mostly remember the good times. 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
richy65 Posted December 29, 2023 Share Posted December 29, 2023 We don’t know each other @galenkiabut sad to hear of your loss. You’ve been a top man for all the time you’ve spent with your sister recently and I wish you well in the future. 2 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
galenkia Posted January 2 Author Share Posted January 2 Going to the hospice today to discuss the donation I want to make to them. I want to give them £25,000 to help them care for others in Jan’s memory. They have already gave her plants to other patients to brighten up their rooms. The staff were amazing, as are all medical staff I have known are. 3 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roomark Posted January 2 Share Posted January 2 I've only just caught up with this news. So sorry to hear Gal . RIP Jan . I echo what everyone else has said , good man for taking care of her. Keep yourself busy and keep the counselling up. Stay on the path pal you've turned your life around , you're a good man and deserve to be on the right path 1 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
galenkia Posted January 2 Author Share Posted January 2 1 minute ago, roomark said: I've only just caught up with this news. So sorry to hear Gal . RIP Jan . I echo what everyone else has said , good man for taking care of her. Keep yourself busy and keep the counselling up. Stay on the path pal you've turned your life around , you're a good man and deserve to be on the right path Thanks mate, much appreciated. 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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